This is a little theory of mine. I have been thinking about it for a couple days and it makes sense to me so far. It might make you uncomfortable, but hear me out.
Gay marriage has been used as a decoy, by Satan to get the church to fight the wrong battle.
That is my thesis.
Now I will try to establish it.
We are in a spiritual battle as Christians. The enemy is out to destroy the one thing that God has established to promote a godly heritage. What is that? The family. The Lord does not use the Government to promote a godly heritage, or the community, or the church necessarily (by itself). The church is supposed to be made up of godly families, who together raise their children to pass on the faith.
All of the sudden in the last 10 years or so, we have been told that the family unit is under attack, and the enemy is the gay rights movement. We were told that if gay people get married it will ruin traditional families. If gay people adopt children it will ruin our godly heritage.
So we have fought and campaigned to prevent gays and lesbians from making permanent lifelong commitments to each other.
Don’t get me wrong.
I believe homosexuality is a sin.
But what I am saying is that maybe we are fighting the wrong battle.
Paul told us to not dispute with those who are not in the church about their morality, but those inside the church.
I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.
For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? But those who are outside God judges. Therefore “put away from yourselves the evil person.” (1 Corinthians 5:9-13)
So what have we done?
We have fought a long ugly battle against the gay rights people.
And we have let our guards down when it comes to the more acceptable sexual sins in the church.
In the church, how many families do you see falling apart?
Children born out of wedlock?
It is nothing new.
It is so common that we even have special Bible studies for single moms.
When a woman gets pregnant, there is no shock anymore. There is compassion and tolerance. “Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?” (1 Corinthians 5:6)
We all run to her aid, and try to prove our unconditional love by throwing her an extravagant baby shower, complete with a Bible study.
We dedicate children born out of wedlock to the Lord in our pulpits.
Should we not do that?
Well, it certainly isn’t the baby’s fault that his mom and dad sinned against the Lord. If there is repentance then we should. But when mom and dad are still in sin, what sense does that make?
But where is the shame?
Where is the grief that this child will grow up in a home without a Father?
Where is the pain that this child will not be given a godly heritage by two parents who love each other, and obey the Lord.
There is none of the security, none of the balance, and no example to follow into.
In the church, blended families and single parent homes are the norm.
And yet we vilify homosexual relationships . . .
“At least I am not gay . . . ”
When our own camp is full of sin.
Falling short of the glory of God.
Missing the mark.
Our own families are broken.
Our girls desperate for a father, grow up to give themselves to male affection to fill the whole in their hearts–because they had no daddy.
Boys, growing up to impregnate their own girlfriends because that is what their own father did.
An endless cycle.
The gay couple down the street is not going to hurt my kids. They are just trying to live their own lives. They are not going to ruin the significance or blessing that God has given to my family. I will still love my spouse. We will still teach our kids the word of God and raise them to have their own healthy God honoring relationships when they are ready.
We do not need to fear gay couples. They are trying to create a copy of the real thing.
They realize the value of marriage.
They long to have a family.
They are trying desperately to have the one thing that we are trampling underfoot.
We are trying to keep it from them, all the while treating it as if it were unnecessary for ourselves and the families in our churches.
Satan has gotten us to fight the wrong battle.
What will hurt my kids is my own adultery, fornication, or divorce.
What will hurt my kids is if I (and other CHRISTIANS) minimize our MY own sin and transgress MY OWN beliefs.
Why do we show so much tolerance IN THE CHURCH to so called Christians walking in broken relationships, whose children SUFFER the consequences of their parent’s selfish choices?
Why don’t we call that sin?
Why don’t pastors preach against divorce anymore?
Why don’t pastors preach against fornication? Sex outside of marriage anymore?
We are allowing our own families to be handicapped, and we are throwing away our own heritage. All the while patting ourselves on the back, thinking at least we don’t think gays should get married.
Don’t worry about what the world does.
You can’t force the world to live like Christians, when the church can’t even live like Christians!
Worry about what the church is doing.
Take a stand for God’s plan for the family.
Take a stand against sexual immorality in the church.
That is what will destroy our families, and our children.
How many kids are going to go to bed tonight, believing in Jesus and praying to God to make daddy come back home?
I know of three of them in particular.
I just found out that another man in our church has thrown away his wife and kids.
It isn’t right.
It needs to stop.