The Battle For Traditional Marriage — It Isn’t What We Thought It Was

This is a little theory of mine. I have been thinking about it for a couple days and it makes sense to me so far. It might make you uncomfortable, but hear me out.

Gay marriage has been used as a decoy, by Satan to get the church to fight the wrong battle.

That is my thesis.

Now I will try to establish it.

We are in a spiritual battle as Christians. The enemy is out to destroy the one thing that God has established to promote a godly heritage. What is that? The family. The Lord does not use the Government to promote a godly heritage, or the community, or the church necessarily (by itself). The church is supposed to be made up of godly families, who together raise their children to pass on the faith.

All of the sudden in the last 10 years or so, we have been told that the family unit is under attack, and the enemy is the gay rights movement. We were told that if gay people get married it will ruin traditional families. If gay people adopt children it will ruin our godly heritage.

So we have fought and campaigned to prevent gays and lesbians from making permanent lifelong commitments to each other.

Don’t get me wrong.

I believe homosexuality is a sin.

But what I am saying is that maybe we are fighting the wrong battle.

Paul told us to not dispute with those who are not in the church about their morality, but those inside the church.

 I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people.  Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world.  But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.

For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? But those who are outside God judges. Therefore “put away from yourselves the evil person.” (1 Corinthians 5:9-13)

So what have we done?

We have fought a long ugly battle against the gay rights people.

And we have let our guards down when it comes to the more acceptable sexual sins in the church.

In the church, how many families do you see falling apart?

Couples seperating?



Children born out of wedlock?

It is nothing new.

It is so common that we even have special Bible studies for single moms.

When a woman gets pregnant, there is no shock anymore. There is compassion and tolerance. “Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?” (1 Corinthians 5:6)

We all run to her aid, and try to prove our unconditional love by throwing her an extravagant baby shower, complete with a Bible study.

We dedicate children born out of wedlock to the Lord in our pulpits.

Should we not do that?

Well, it certainly isn’t the baby’s fault that his mom and dad sinned against the Lord. If there is repentance then we should. But when mom and dad are still in sin, what sense does that make?

But where is the shame?

Where is the grief that this child will grow up in a home without a Father?

Where is the pain that this child will not be given a godly heritage by two parents who love each other, and obey the Lord.

There is none of the security, none of the balance, and no example to follow into.

In the church, blended families and single parent homes are the norm.

And yet we vilify homosexual relationships . . .

“At least I am not gay . . . ”

When our own camp is full of sin.

Falling short of the glory of God.

Missing the mark.


Our own families are broken.

Our girls desperate for a father, grow up to give themselves to male affection to fill the whole in their hearts–because they had no daddy.

Boys, growing up to impregnate their own girlfriends because that is what their own father did.

An endless cycle.

The gay couple down the street is not going to hurt my kids. They are just trying to live their own lives. They are not going to ruin the significance or blessing that God has given to my family. I will still love my spouse. We will still teach our kids the word of God and raise them to have their own healthy God honoring relationships when they are ready.

We do not need to fear gay couples. They are trying to create a copy of the real thing.

They realize the value of marriage.

They long to have a family.

They are trying desperately to have the one thing that we are trampling underfoot.

We are trying to keep it from them, all the while treating it as if it were unnecessary for ourselves and the families in our churches.

Satan has gotten us to fight the wrong battle.

What will hurt my kids is my own adultery, fornication, or divorce.

What will hurt my kids is if I (and other CHRISTIANS) minimize our MY own sin and transgress MY OWN beliefs.

Why do we show so much tolerance IN THE CHURCH to so called Christians walking in broken relationships, whose children SUFFER the consequences of their parent’s selfish choices?

Why don’t we call that sin?

Why don’t pastors preach against divorce anymore?

Why don’t pastors preach against fornication? Sex outside of marriage anymore?

We are allowing our own families to be handicapped, and we are throwing away our own heritage. All the while patting ourselves on the back, thinking at least we don’t think gays should get married.

Don’t worry about what the world does. 

You can’t force the world to live like Christians, when the church can’t even live like Christians!

Worry about what the church is doing.

Take a stand for God’s plan for the family.

Take a stand against sexual immorality in the church.

That is what will destroy our families, and our children.

How many kids are going to go to bed tonight, believing in Jesus and praying to God to make daddy come back home?

I know of three of them in particular.

I just found out that another man in our church has thrown away his wife and kids.

It isn’t right.

It needs to stop.


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7 Responses to The Battle For Traditional Marriage — It Isn’t What We Thought It Was

  1. No One says:

    You are so right on. Gay marriage is a total non-issue for all of the reasons you have listed, and especially in light of 1 Corinthians 5:9. The church has much bigger issues they need to deal with internally. Hello, speck? Meet log, if you know what I’m saying. It is so refreshing to find another Christian who “gets” this. I could not agree with you more. Christians are supposed to go out and love people in the world in order to show them the goodness and mercy of God.

    What happens when instead we launch militant hate campaigns against other people who desperately also need God’s mercy? That’s not God’s work. What that does is create division and strife between two groups of people who become entrenched in hatred. I have been saying for years that this issue is one that will eventually result in intense persecution of the church. The more the church fights gay marriage, the more the world will resent, attack, and persecute the church, moving it to fringe status in society. And that makes it very difficult for Godly people to impact the world in a positive way. Whose plan is that? Not God’s.

  2. Sheryl says:

    This was an amazing blog written in truth. We are so busy trying to be righteous that we end up being self-righteous in our behaviors in the church. when we are supposed to be loving we are casting stones at the adulterous women, never seeing our own sin. The church is full of tolerance, if we can’t get it right how do we expect others in the World to. We are a joke to the World, if we are not condemning then we are hypocrites. We are not Holy and set apart from God. Yes we talk of holiness but we expect it from those other than ourselves. How sad. I have had the privilege of having a Gay young man come to live with me that was homeless. He was suffering so much pain and anguish. the Lord told me as he entered my door “This is your Son” now what kind of God would do that? Love a Homosexual? I thought he hated them as other people in the church are screaming. I will tell you of a God that would do that; My God would. He is not wanting not one to perish and loves his creation, those he created in his image. The fall was responsible for corruptible bodies and sin. Does this mean that we compromise the Word. Emphatically NO!!!! But Homosexual sin is sin period just like heterosexual sin, just like stealing, lying, adultery, drunkenness, idolitry. God said all who practiced these things would not enter the Kingdom.Not one is greater. We all fall short of the Glory of God. We are all sinners needing a Savior. Our righteousness is like filthy rags. When we can start living out the true Gospel and bringing the message of repentance in our own lives than we will make our mark, God judges the church first. we must clean up our act. How many are in our church practicing this stuff, calling themselves Christians and a work in progress yet rallying and holding signs against the sins of the World, calling themselves righteous. Look at the women at the well.
    This young man needed love and God allowed me to give it, I told him it was not my job to change him, but to show him love that did not expect anything in return, not based on what he did but what God created him to be, how God saw him, and he received it. Looking at him in Love but yet a sinner such as I. Is he yet walking with Christ? no ,but he is on a journey and seeds were planted. If God brought him to my door I know he has a plan for this young man. I will pray and remain faithful to what the Lord calls me to do in this situation, not judging but loving and he knows this. He has been given the truth and now it lyes in his hands to except it or reject it. He says he was shown more love than he has ever known, without conditions, he understands that Jesus loved that same way, he also understands the gospel message of repentance of sin.. We do not have to fear Gay marriage God will take care of the uncommitted non-repentive non-believer in his time. He will also take care of those in the church that profess Christ that do not know him but think they do. “Lord, Lord, but did I not prophesy in your name? Did I not Cast out demons in your name? Jesus says, Go away you workers of iniquity I never knew you. What frightening Words to hear. Yet Jesus said it to them, knowing and talking to the Church. Daily we need to examine our hearts as David says, repent of our sin, and humble ourselves to the Almighty, Sovereign God, no compromise, and just because it looks and acts like God does not mean that it is, especially in church., test the spirits, be like the Bearians, we are lacking this, looking to men rather than looking to God for our answers. We will stand before a Holy Righteous God alone, and we are accountable to his Word, and have we loved as Jesus, have we loved enough? We must stand against all sin in the church and in the World, we must discern. We must remember what Jesus said about the Religious Leaders of the day He called them whitewashed tombs and a brood of Vipers. Yikes!!! His harsh words spoke to the Church. We must heed that message.
    I just happened upon your blogs and have enjoyed reading God’s truth. You are not alone I agree with you. The road is broad leading to destruction and narrow is the way. Thank you for showing the narrow road.

  3. Elaine says:

    I am soooo glad I found your blog site.

  4. Lana says:

    I’m new to your blog so in going through past articles I found this one. I have felt the Lord saying this very thing to me also. I have shared it with a few people, some seem receptive but most seem indifferent. I’m thankful to have found someone with the same heart and hearing the same thing. We have made ourselves feel so much better about the more “acceptable, politically correct” sins by elevating this one. By minimizing certain sins we also minimize God’s grace in forgiving them and cleansing us from them and what the finished work of the Cross truly means. We have become a people that are too emotionally and spiritually fragile to have sin confronted in a Biblical way by godly people. It is ok for someone to do this as long as it is done out of love and the leading of Holy Spirit. This brings about conviction and a desire to turn from sin if we receive correction properly. The problem is when we act IN PLACE OF Holy Spirit, attempting to do His job instead of allowing Him to work THROUGH us we drive the world from Jesus instead of to him. Jesus never compromised sin and did not present a weak Gospel. My concern is that the church in general has done that very thing and lost much of our credibility in the process. I have faith that this is changing when I come across believers such a yourself. We have to change, beginning by searching our very own hearts and motives first, then the culture will begin to change. I’m thankful for those who have been steadfast and a light to find our way back to worshipping Jesus in Spirit in Truth without being stuck in religion and the ways of man. Blessings and prayers for you to continue searching out the “hidden and mighty things”!!

  5. L. says:

    Amen! My thoughts exactly!

  6. sheilla says:

    Simply reasonable,although not much into religion, hallowen is satanism and satanism is hideous and wrong by all means

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